Wifey Wednesday 6/16

It's Wifey Wednesday again over at To Love Honor and Vacuum!

This week Sheila has picked another tough topic. Basically she is talking about what to do when you have had intimate relationships with someone/s prior to your marriage. How this can affect your marriage and what you can do about it.

I wrote a nice long post and then thought again. I think with any past sin regardless of the nature of that sin you have to do a few things.

1. Get right with God!

You have to get right with God first and foremost. When we confess our sins and ask forgiveness we can rely on HIS grace and mercy to see us through to the other side. When we ask for help and open ourselves up to hearing HiS voice we can start down a new path.

2. Get right with yourself!

The toughest part is forgiving yourself. Often we can forgive others or accept forgiveness but cannot forgive ourselves. We have to move past our past mistakes, our past sins in order to continue to grow. You have a choice here and you are the only one who can make it. It's time to move on. Love yourself, treat yourself the way you would treat your best friend.

3. Get real with yourself!

Asking for forgiveness and forgiving yourself lead to miraculous changes in your life. But, you have to get real with yourself as well! You have to look at those past mistakes, really dig into them sometimes and figure out what the heck was going on. In order to stop repeating the same mistakes we often have to understand why we made them. Then develop a plan to keep us from slipping down that slope again.

pray, pray and pray some more!

You can have a relationship based on biblical principles regardless of your past if you forgive yourself as your Father forgives you.

Remember ladies

You are forgiven

You are loved

and your past does not define you!