Thursday, June 3, 2010

Wifey Wednesday 6/3

Wifey Wednesday is hosted by Sheila over at To Love Honor and Vacuum

This week Sheila is talking about "Til death do us part."

I had to think about this one for a little while. I have strong feelings about this topic but sometimes they are hard to get out right. I don't ever want to offend anyone or have someone misunderstand me.

I acted out terribly as a teenager. I was very promiscious for several years. I also have been divorced and am remarried.

So, when I say that I think marriage is forever - I feel like a hypocrite! But, I believe it!

I married my first husband when I was 19 and a single mother. I am blessed that I have learned so much from that experience. We were married for 6 months when I left. I don't regret it. I don't regret any of it. I don't regret getting married because I am who I am today because of it. I don't regret the divorce either because I was too young, I didn't know the meaning of what I was doing.

Marriage is not easy. It's not all roses and candlelight. But, it's like wine. It gets better and better with age (if you are a wine person!) My husband is wonderful. It's often hard to think of him as my 2nd marriage because in my heart it's not that way. We've had rough time. We've actually had some REALLY rough times that resulted in so much pain that a marriage counselor once told us that it was a miracle we managed to get through it. But, it gets better with time!

My advice to many women today is to stick it out. 99% of the time it gets better. It's usually not all their fault and it's worth it!

I would never venture to say that divorce is not an option. It was an option for me and is for everyone. However, had I jumped for divorce during the really trying times with my husband I don't know where I would be now! I definitely believe that it's cause to pray. If you are unhappy (even if unhappy comes nowhere near describing where you are!) please pray. I am so glad that I did not give up. I am so happy that I struggled through the really tough times. I am so blessed to be where we are today!

1 comment:

Kristine said...

Hi Julia, I found your blog through Sheila Gregoire's "Wifey Wednesday". I couldn't agree more that if we are willing to stick it out during the rough times (and pray a lot!) that relationships can/will grow and mature over time as they are meant to be. I'm so thankful my husband and I figured that out as well :D

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